What does it mean to be a friend? The definition is incredibly widespread and diverse among many people. To some it means providing presence in a time of need. Times of trouble, elation, or achievements. To others it means to accept their request on Facebook.
I dedicate the following poem to a friend of mine:
To be a friend is to develop a special connection over the years.
To be a friend is to talk to them while they’re down.
While they’re up. At their worst, or at their best.
To be a friend is to ask for their suggestions and opinions when you’re feeling down.
While you’re excited. At your worst and your best.
To be a friend is to have a crush on them, even when you’re not supposed to.
To be a friend is to compliment them when you believe your words.
To be a friend is to find out they’re single.
And wish they were with you.
And wish you were single.
To be a friend is to talk to them when you’re both confused.
And you still have a crush on her.
And you’re single.
To be a friend is to tell her she’s perfect for me.
And have thought this for a long, long time.
To be a friend is to meet up with her late at night, because she needs a voice.
Or because you need a voice.
To be a friend is to see her cry, and feel bad.
Even if you didn’t make her cry.
To be a friend is to help her clear her mind.
To be a friend is to hope she can one day be happy again.
Happy with the guy she chooses. Even if it isn’t you.
Although you wish it was you.
To be a friend is to have her friend enter your life.
And to happily be with that friend.
To be a friend is to update her that you and her friend are together.
And to see her smile.
To be a friend is to make her smile.
And maybe hear her laugh.
To be a friend is to find out she made a decision.
With a guy she’s had problems with. And you helped her through those problems.
With a guy I watched her cry over. And you told her to be careful with him.
With a guy I haven’t met, but haven’t heard anything good.
And I hope he’s good for her.
And I hope he treats her well.
And I hope he doesn’t break her heart again.
…
To be a friend is to respect her decision.
To say “As long as you’re both on the same page, that’s great.”
And tell her “As long as you’re happy, don’t worry about what others think about your decision.”
To be a friend is to respect her decision.
As much as I hate it.
